Divorce is hard. It is emotionally draining, time-consuming, and exhausting. Even though there is no way to eliminate the heavy weight of a divorce entirely, you will get through it. The following is HTY’s guide will assist you in getting through those extra hard days of your divorce:
First, empower yourself to seek help when you need it.
During times such as a divorce proceeding, it may be beneficial for you to seek professional help. A therapist or a counselor may be able to help you process the emotions that you are experiencing in a safe and supportive way. A divorce coach may be a great resource. Divorce coaches can help to provide clarity about your goals during your divorce and help you through this transitional period in your life.
Second, take care of yourself.
While this may seem obvious, it is oftentimes easy to forget to take care of our own needs while we are going through something as emotional as a divorce. During this time, try your hardest to take care of your health, both mentally and physically. Eat good food and try to move your body. Try your hardest to keep your surroundings positive, not only for yourself but also for any children that may also be involved in these proceedings. Accept that grieving is normal and continue to take care of yourself despite these feelings.
Third, reach out to your support system.
Leaning on your loved ones and your support system during this time is imperative. Make sure that your friends, family, and loved ones know that you are struggling and could use their support. Additionally, support groups with people who have been through this process exist. It may be beneficial to you to speak with people who have been through what you are going through. It may provide clarity and encouragement from a perspective you may have not yet reached.
Fourth, make time for the things that you enjoy doing.
Even though this time of your life may be difficult, heavy, and sad, it is still important to make time to do the things that bring you joy and make you happy. Finding solace in the activities you love will help you to get through this. Make sure to take time for yourself and do the things that make you feel good. It is easy to feel lost while going through a divorce. Maintaining hobbies and keeping routines can be essential in helping you to stay grounded during this process.
Fifth, be kind to yourself.
The variety of emotions that you are likely to feel as a result of your divorce can be overwhelming. Allow yourself to feel all of these feelings and do not beat yourself up for feeling sad, angry, scared, relieved, etc. Whatever you are feeling is valid. Instead of making yourself feel bad, give yourself a break and try to be kind to yourself. Further, divorce is not a sign of failure or defeat. Try not to spend time thinking of how things could have or should have gone differently. Accept that this divorce is part of your timeline, and this too shall pass. The goal is to work through the different stages of your emotions and come to a place of acceptance so that you can keep moving forward.
Divorce can be a difficult and emotional process, but there are ways to get through it. Seeking help when needed, taking care of yourself, reaching out to your support system, making time for the things that make you happy, and being kind to yourself are practices that will help you get through this.
Take time to grieve the loss of the relationship, but also allow yourself to move forward and explore new opportunities for personal growth and happiness.